So every once in a while I might veer off topic in my health and fitness blog to talk about more personal subjects.
Yesterday was a long day. After work I picked up my friend Dsnielle (I drove to work yesterday) and she watched my car while I ran to a field research office and picked up a razor I am to test and give my opinion of (for some cash money), then we parked in a garage and went to dinner (I was good and had grilled salmon), then she went home and I went to another focus group to talk about credit and debit cards (for more cash money). It was late when I got out and finally made it home. In the process I was talking to my honey on the phone and we got in a pretty heated conversation, which kept me up later than I had hoped. I realized about halfway through, that, like most conflicts between lovers, you argue and bicker about something, but there is always an underlining deeper issue that rarely has much to do with what you're argueing about. This guy is totally awesome and I am head over heels, so of course in many ways we are very very much alike, but where we differ is great. See, I have always loved being social and going to aprties and events and being around a lot of people. I love dressing up and schmoozing and weddings and anythign related. He is the polar opposite. When we go to an event that means a lot to me and he is just trying to miserably get through, I can no longer enjoy these events. Mostly because he is not having a good time and our emotional status' seemed to be strongly linked. Our points of conflict seem to revolve around this major difference in "party preference" the majority of the time, and I really do not know what to do. There is no one to blame and no way really to comprimise (well my amount of parties and dressing up and going out has already drastically redused, but we are still going out far more than he prefers). But when major events come, I just do not know how to handle it. I can not seem to shrug this one off and let him be unhappy or not go, but I can not blame him or expect him to feel differently about a situation he just isn't comfortable with. What does one do in this situation????
Sorry, that got way too long, but it explains why I went to bed way too late, and therefor was not able to wake up this morning for boot camp. Well I woke up ...to reset my alarm. When my alarm went off again, I reset it again. I am still extremely tired and it sucks. On top of that I got a ride all the way to work, so I was able to avoid all forms fo excersize this morning, and , for the first time this week, did not bring my lunch. BAD JESSY!
But it's like the nutritionist guy said: 90% of the time follow your diet and excersize, 10% life happens. So this is my ten yo.
Tomorrow I am going to the farmers market for more fresh and healthy yummies and then getting a haircut. ntohing like fresh fruits and veggies and a haircut to give you a new life perspective . . .or at least just make you feel good inside and out :)
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I can totally relate. When m and I started dating it was misery trying to make him go out and do social things. The only thing that helped was coming to terms that he just wasn't that social. It sucked and I resented him for it. THANK GOD! he has totally grown and changed. For a myriad of reasons he was able to realize his social anxieties and work on it and he's so much better socially. I don't know if W is into therapy or whatever. But if he isn't then you just have to accept it. I know it sucks though.
oh, if it makes you feel any better, I did not go to boot camp this week at all. It was so hard to get up this week. I did go to the gym once...=p
hey jess.... just wanted you to know that i've been reading your blog and cheering you on from here in seattle. you really are doing so well. keep it up.
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